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5 Signs She’s Into You
Chelsea Kaplan
Let’s be honest: Sometimes it’s tough to
tell if your date’s just being nice, or
if she’s really into you. So if you need
help sussing out your lady love’s true
feelings, check out these pointers from
Greg Hartley, former Army Special Forces
interrogator and author of I Can Read
You Like a Book: How to Spot the
Messages and Emotions People Are Really
Sending With Their Body Language. Who
knew your date’s smile, complexion and
even where she places her handbag can
reveal whether she considers you friend
or boyfriend material?
Five signs your date is into you…
1) She tilts her head
“When a woman sees and feels especially
comfortable with a man, she will tilt
her head,” Hartley says. A tilt in any
direction, right, left or down are all
signs that she’s interested in getting
to know you better, say, over another
date.
2) She takes a sip when you take a
sip
When a woman is drawn to a man, she’ll
instinctively mirror his actions,
Hartley says. While men do this, too,
women are more likely than men to first
begin the copying. What should you look
for? “You might notice she will shift
her body in the same direction as yours
or take your lead for behaviour changes
like picking up a glass to drink or
blinking her eyes repeatedly if you’re
doing so,” he suggests. If you want to
test her, lean forward and see if she
comes closer, too.
3) She twirls her hair
Since the beginning of time, a woman’s
hair has been celebrated as a symbol of
her sexuality (does the story of Samson
and Delilah ring a bell?). And it’s true
today, says Hartley: If your date begins
twirling or playing with her hair while
talking to you, it is a good sign she’s
into you and subconsciously trying to
attract you.
4) She gets a glow
While blushing often means
embarrassment, don’t assume that her
rosy cheeks are an indication of
discomfort. When a woman is sexually
aroused and attracted, blood flows not
only to her nether regions, but also to
her face, which causes her cheeks to get
redder, Hartley explains. And if your
date is smitten, he adds, her lips and
even eyelids will get fuller, too, he
says.
5) Her pupils dilate
While your gaze is fixed on her, pay
particular attention to her pupils,
advises Hartley. “When a woman is
attracted to a man, her pupils will
dilate,” he notes. “Essentially, the
body does this in order to allow itself
to take in more of a good thing.”
…and five signs your date is not into
you
1) She crosses her arms
< Did she assume the angry librarian
stance? “When a woman on a date places
her hands in front of her body,
especially if they are crossed, she is
closing herself off from the man,”
Hartley notes. If you get this red flag,
you don’t stand a chance… and she wants
you to know it. “Men are not nearly as
perceptive as women, so even if she’s
not consciously aware of it, a woman
knows her body language needs to be very
loud,” Hartley explains. “In this
instance, that body language reads loud
and clear.”
2) She places her bag between your
two
“When I ask male friends how a blind
date went, step-by-step, and they say
‘she put her bag on the table’, I always
know that’s a bad sign,” Hartley says.
If your date places her handbag a real
and physical barrier between you two,
she’s showing she wants to create
distance, he says. Not a good sign.
3) She speaks faster than an
auctioneer
So she seems to love talking to you?
Before you break open the bubbly, note
the speed of her small talk. “Romantic
conversation does not occur at the same
speed as business conversation,” Hartley
says. “Conversation between two people
who are attracted typically slows to
about three-quarter speed and softens.
In fact, most emotional conversation,
with the exception of very hostile
conversation, is at a slowed cadence.”
That said, she may be nervous early in
your first date, and her nerves can
cause her to spit her sentences out
rapid-fire. But if by the end of the
evening she’s still going at a rapid
rate, consider it a clue that she just
wants to be friends at best.
4) She offers you a chin-up smile
Though it’s tempting to interpret any
old smile as a sign of interest, all
smiles are not created equal. Smiles can
say a lot “I’m polite,” “I’m crazy about
you,” and, believe it or not, “I can’t
stand you.” The secret to decoding what
her smile really means? It’s all in the
chin placement. A woman who gives you a
relaxed, chin down “soft smile” is
smitten and wants you to dig her back,
Hartley explains. A full-on toothpaste
grin or stiff and polite smile both of
which generally involve the chin raised
up, mean either “I like you as a friend”
or “I wanna get out of here!”
5) She strokes her neck
If your date’s telling you she agrees
that you should get together again,
that’s a good sign, right? Maybe, says
Hartley. “Her body language may be the
key to the real truth,” he says. “If a
woman is gently stroking her neck when
telling you this, it may be a sign that
she’s interested, but it is also known
to be a sign of lying.” To figuring out
which message she’s sending, consider
the aforementioned “she’s not into you”
signals. If she’s also giving you the
raised-chin smile and speaking to you
over a giant handbag, you may want to
move on to your next prospect.
Chelsea Kaplan is deputy editor of
www.thefamilygroove.com and regularly
appears as a guest on XM Radio’s
“Broadminded”. Her blog, “I’m Somebody’s
Mother?” can be found at
www.chelseakaplan.com.
Courtesy of Yahoo.com
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